MEETING THE ONE

 MEETING THE ONE

Young ladies, forget what you witnessed in those romantic chick flicks, for they are a skewed version of what true love really is. Based on my wide range life experience, I can certainly affirm that one's true love does not come in a perfect package, and especially not after you whisper a short general prayer to God, expecting that He will magically shift bible verses, in order to align you to your soulmate. Indeed, if wishes were horses, we would all be riding a herd of them. Nonetheless, the reality about true love is not a fairy tale, as some deem it to be. Before you get to find your true partner, there will be many forks in the road for you to overcome, and each is designed for your painful growth. If you think that the universe will grant you the ultimate gift, before it can test your ability to recognize, accept, and keep it, then think again. The truth is that your perfect partner will be hidden from you, until you awaken to your higher self, ascend to your greater self, and pursue your calling, is when you will come across your soulmate. There are no two ways about it, where true love matters.

Therefore, get your head out of fantasy land, romanticizing everything, soon as you begin to pine for someone new. God answers our prayers for a soulmate in the most transformative way, taking you through a difficult growth process, whereby you die to the mundane, and resurrect to the ultimate purpose. God does not want to loose His soldiers to wicked souls, hence he has to work on you, until you are ready for true love. If you really desire true love, you also must be true love material, otherwise you will always be on the lowerside of the love fence, next to the dirty dating pool pond, swimming with the frogs, rats, and snakes that continually take you for granted, bruise your ego, and eventually deceive you in the worst way.

In short, meeting the one is not a walk in the park. It is a journey for the brave at heart. Yet, I have met a few ladies who dared challenge me on this matter. "I bumped into my true love, and we moved in together a month later, and we have been inseperable since", one youngin once gloated but I forgave her ignorant self for she was a child. At twenty three years, you have not seen nor tasted anything yet, to be chiming in grown folks business. Most twenty three year olds have just left their parents' nest, stepped into early adulthood, and are in college or working to become independent. Therefore, the only type of real love they have experienced is parental love, if they are lucky to have loving parents in their lives.

Puppy love is what twenty somethings are still exploring with the opposite sex, from their teenage years, of which many budding adults will later learn the hard way that this kind of innocent love turns toxic real fast, and hence it is the mother of all heartbreak songs ever produced in all lifetimes. As yet, we have not even began to touch on sacrificial, struggle, and self love, which are in themselves, are painful character development tools, used to push us into maturity, as well as self-actualization. I bet you that when you get to this stage of your life, all those romcoms you love so dearly, will turn into punchlines for your seedy jokes.

Contrary to popular belief, love is not only for the birds but for us all. Although, to be fair, I do believe that the birds have mastered the art of being in satisfying monogamous relationships, until they drop dead, by a predator's deadly claw. Once the gentle bird meets up with the lady bird, they seal the love deal for a lifetime, dedicating their lives to one another, building a nestling for their baby birds, watching them grow, until they fly off into the sunset. Because their life span is short, perhaps their decision to stay with one another is beyond love. Maybe the two love birds, pun very much intended, decide to stay together for connection, protection, and preservation. I believe that these winged creatures trust and obey God's leading of their natural lives, than most humans do.

Yet, the law of the jungle is not kind to any creature, be it bird or man. It is a man eat man society afterall, and no creature is safe within the pecking order. In a word, we live in a fallen world, where none is safe, not in love nor in life. In fact, it is every man for himself, and God for us all. When it comes to love or to be loved, God is the one put on a pedastal before anything or anyone else. Who you worship, is also the one you glorify. Anyone or anything that comes before your God will lead you into disappointment, betrayal, and sometimes even to a sad fate.

Once you have learnt to put God first, then you graduate into self-love. Before you decide to dedicate your love and affection to anyone, make sure you direct love and care to yourself. Anyone who is quick to love others more than they love themselves, is a people-pleaser, looking for validation. After, finding your purpose follows in this direction of sacrificial love. You were not brought into this earth, merely to occupy space. Therefore, you must ask for God's guidance for your higher calling, before finding your true love. You will come to learn that in your purpose, is where you will find your soul mate.

Next, your happily ever after chapter in life opens up when you least expect it. Take que from Cinderella, the most favourite of disney princesses, and learn after her fairy tale. Once she conqured her toughest of battles, is when she met Prince Charming, who came in the nick of time, to rescue, marry, and live happily ever after.