NOWADAYS, LOVE IS FOR THE BIRDS

 

NOWADAYS, LOVE IS SEEMINGLY FOR THE BIRDS

I am fully convinced that human beings have no idea of what love is. We have some sort of idea of what love could be, yet ask any random person to give you a brief definition of what love is, and you will wish that you did not ask them at all. Love sounds like hard labour to many, while for others, love is fleeting and almost non-existent. However, there is a special breed of people who have never experienced love, and therefore would not know it, even if it hit them straight in the face. According to them, love is a utopian ideology that exists only in the heads of romanticists.

What’s more, traditional ways of love greatly differs from the modern ways of love. For example, the way our grandparents expressed their love to each other was barely visible, to almost non-existent. Our fore-fathers and mothers barely spoke to each other, let alone communicate love to one another. Their love was so microscopic that it was rarely seen, and perhaps by some sort of a miracle, when the two love birds accidentally showed their love in public, they would almost immediately hide the emotion, soon as it creeped out of their love nest. It was as if they were forbidden to show love in public. Hence, love became such a private affair for our grand-folks, and so hidden that even our parents struggled to identify love, for it seemed as though they were not aware of its colour. As a result, we were also not privy to what love was, and consequently strive to understand it.

Though, not so for the millennials. They seem to be borne lovers, who do not mind parading their emotions in the open, and not shy of expressing their sentiments openly to one another. I do not know how they came to the knowledge of love. Conceivably, their understanding of love differs from what my generation understood love to be, hence what they believe is love, they are not shy of embracing, as well as demonstrating it. Thank God for the new age technology, which has granted us access to loads on information as to what love is or could be. With technology comes the freedom to love and freely love, without shame. Today, anything goes, for it is a free world, and as long as love feels right to you, then it is good for you.

Yet, I do believe that love is experienced more and in truancy with the birds. Only the birds know the true meaning of love, always chirping endlessly, without a care in the world. Surely, it must be love that triggers their happy state or is it just my imagination? I believe that God has let the birds of the air in on the secret to true love and happiness. Maybe the birds already know how time plays out on their cycle of life, and as a result, they are always elated with each passing moment. Perhaps the secret to true love is letting go of everything and letting God take charge of it all. True love elevates and makes one to spread their wings and fly, just like the birds of the sky. Hence, if the above is true, then why do humans battling to understand, find, and keep love? The concept of love sounds so simple, yet so complex, especially when it comes to its implementation.

On the contrary, love to the millennials is based on how they feel in the present moment. Their love heightens and dwindles depending on how they momentarily feel. Hence, you cannot hold on to their version of love, as it is fickle and tends to fade away with the drop of a hat. Consequently, you will always end up broken and confused, while holding on to this new age love. Unlike the millennial love, ancestral love was not verbalized much, yet its actions were strong, consistent, as well as durable. However, millennial love goes with the flow of the moment in time.

Actually, this is my perception of the new-age love. Nowadays, the letter L in love stands for, “Look dude, I can love who I want to love. Therefore, it is either you accept me for who I am, or hit the road Jack and don’t you come back no more.” This kind of tumultuous love affair is so shifty and unbalanced, such that you cannot trust yourself to be in it. It is like the moment you start to believe that you are in sync with your love interest, that is when the other shoe drops, and you find yourself tempest-tossed, and drifting ashore due to turbulent love.

The letter O in love is for, “Oh, so you think you can love me, then leave me? Ok, we shall see.” This murderous-type of relationship stems from the earlier mentioned kind of a love connection, whereby fatal attraction is end game. I bet you that at first, you never see it coming when it suddenly catches you off-guard, and particularly so when life insecurities, accompanied by mental problems start to slowly creep up on your beloved partner, who is convinced that you are out to burn them.

The letter V in love stands for, “Vindictive is my middle name. So, if I cannot have your love, then no one can.” Need I say more to this entrapment? When you get to experience this kind of a snare, it is only God that can save you from such a terrible burden. Otherwise, to survive this twist of fate, you must run for your life and never look back, should you wish to see another day.

To conclude, the letter E in love resonates with, “Everyone is afraid of love." This rings true in everyone’s ear, for this is our mentality when it comes to the quest for love. Perhaps, our horrid past experiences with love pose as our greatest challenge to us having to commit ourselves fully to it. Thus, we should retrace our steps back to the one who orchestrated this love thing, and ask Him for the blueprint. Maybe then, we can learn more of love, commit to it, and pass it down to our offspring.