THE RACE FOR LOVE....

 

STRUGGLE LOVE: AFRICAN EDITION; PART 5

THE RACE FOR LOVE....

Racial love is becoming the norm in today’s society, where both the modern African man and woman are embracing love from other races. Ordinarily, we have not been socialized to find love outside our race, more so because our interactions within the continent are majorly with people of the same race. Yet we must not shy away from embracing love outside our African race. I am not a love guru, neither am I the love whisperer. I do not declare myself to be an expert on relationships. God knows that I too could really use His help in the love department. However, I will try to answer as many questions as I can, regarding matters of interracial love, based on knowledge, experience and sheer common sense.

Many Africans would like to know whether it is possible to find love outside their own race. The answer is an absolute yes. True love is colour-blind. You can never predict who you will fall in love with. It is the nature of love to pair two beating hearts together in perfect harmony, in spite of their race.

Does this then mean that the people of African descent are safe to love outside their own race? There is no need for you to fear. It is a free world. Meaning that the world today not only accepts but embraces interracial love. Therefore, you have as much space as you need to express your love and also receive love in equal measure.

Will fellow Africans consider me a traitor, should I find and embrace love outside my race? It is not a crime to love someone, whether they be inside or outside of your race. There are no judgements, when it come to love. But what does it matter what people think of you? It should matter more of what you think about yourself, and what God thinks about you. Period.

Will people think of me as a gold-digger or an opportunist, if I express my love to someone of another race? Again, who cares what people think? Do they supply the air you breathe? Do they pay your rent? Will they marry you? Leave people be, go out there, find your happiness, and express your love to your partner, as much as you would like to.

Are we Africans considered to have the most dramatic love relationships, than other races? Look, some people are just full of drama, whether they are black or white. It is in their nature to be overly chaotic and dysfunctional. So, you cannot pin their madness on their race but more so, on their personality and character.  Therefore, choose wisely.

Am I able to carry my African cultural beliefs and practices in to an interracial love connection? What cultural beliefs and practices? Listen here, polygamy, wife inheritance, and female circumcision will not fly in this connection. Are you a Babatunde, trying to hold fast to archaic traditions? Then what was the reason for going to school and acquiring an education? Why do you practice religion? It is the twenty first century, therefore learn to roll with the new times.

Are other races better than my African race, in love matters? Not necessarily. Our socialization plays a big role in how we perceive and respond to love. Fortunately, we are able to learn positive traits that enable us to love better, while we unlearn negative behaviours that make us toxic and closed off to love.

Are Africans more attractive than other races? Well, this depends on what you consider to be attractive. They say that beauty lies in the eyes of the beholder. They also say that the darker the skin, the sweeter the juice, and the deeper the roots. Therefore, the answer here will entirely depend upon you.

Will our parents be offended by this open show of interracial love? Maybe. Possibly. But your parents found love with each other. So, why should they make it difficult for you to find, embrace, and show love toward your partner, regardless of who they are or where they come from?

Will our families embrace our interracial love? They have to, even if it kills them. This union is more about you both, than it is about them. Thus, your partner is with whom you found love, and in love is where you must stand to fight for it.

Will our children be considered to be African, should our interracial-selves decide to procreate? Your children will be of mixed race and a blend of two or more ancestries. As they grow, teach them to embrace both races equally, and not to consider one race as more important than the other.

Will the African population decrease, as interracial couples grow increasingly in number? I doubt it. Do you know just how many children are born everyday, within the African continent? Anyway, you need not to worry about the African populace. God has a way of balancing us out. All you need to do, is to go toward your wish fulfilment.

Should we as Africans breed together, for the sake of our roots, bloodlines, and ancestries? Well, like I said, God does not our help, to balance out anything. Moreover, do not make excuses for why you cannot hook yourself up to Becky, when we all know that you are dying to. It is obvious that Becky loves you and you love her. So, go on and be with her and stop wasting time, thinking about roots, stems and trees.

What of God? Does he approve of interracial love? Yes, He does, for created us equal in His sight. Therefore, you are free to love a person of another race, as long as you are not equally yoked to a un-believer that is if you are a bible-believing Christian. I do not know the laws of other faiths, so I will not dare comment on them.